• Why We Care About What THEY Think and How to Overcome It

    Sometimes, even the most independent, self-assured and creative people can put our goals, dreams and passions on hold or give them up permanently because of a pesky, pervasive THEY issue. There is a strong voice in us that says something like: What will THEY think? THEY will think I am stupid, annoying, too big for my britches, etc. THEY won’t understand or support me. THEY will find fault with me, talk behind my back, try to make things difficult for me, etc. THEY won’t love me anymore. I will lose them as friends, family, colleagues, etc. Do you find that you predict and ... [ Read More ]

    Why We Care About What THEY Think and How to Overcome It
  • What is Holding you Back from Growing into your Potential?

    Imagine growing a majestic maple tree in a 6-inch pot on your windowsill. Not sensible right? Yet, most of us are like a maple tree stuck in a teeny pot. Although we feel the power of possibility at our core - sense our birthright to become our highest, greatest good - our growth is often threatened, and stunted, by the limits we place on our lives. We yearn to blossom, grow and reach for the sky. But, we stay small, abandon our potential, and we don’t know why. It is one of the most painful experiences we can have because we feel it in our Soul. Even a small house plant will die if not ... [ Read More ]

    What is Holding you Back from Growing into your Potential?
  • What Aspects of your Shiny Soul Have you Forgotten?

    When we find ourselves at a place in our lives that is unmanageable, we have to learn to draw upon aspects of ourselves that we normally don’t. It is difficult to make progress, regain health, find happiness, cultivate peace and be the person we know ourselves to be at our core, if we cannot unlock new ways of being. Moving forward often means rediscovering the Aspects of our Shiny Soul that we have forgotten. Old patterns of behaviour and thought will always lead us to the same lessons, over and over, and away from love, if we do not choose to open up to new territory that lies within. We ... [ Read More ]

    What Aspects of your Shiny Soul Have you Forgotten?
  • Three Ways to Free our Shiny Souls

    Today, my son Everett is 16 months old. And, I am 16 weeks pregnant! Everett will be welcoming his new baby sister or brother in December. My husband and I don’t like to find out the gender in advance because we love to revel in the anticipation! Our first ultrasound is coming up on July 23rd but everything is already very real. We have heard the galloping heartbeat and I am quite round. Also, I am super hungry for cheese, cheese and more cheese, please :) I am relieved to be free from the first trimester of pregnancy. For me, it is a trying time. I am cranky, restless, sad, queasy and ... [ Read More ]

    Three Ways to Free our Shiny Souls
  • The Words I Needed to Hear as I Suffered with Chronic Pain

      From One Shiny Soul to Another   Your pain is intense You feel tired and weak But contending with your life Makes you stronger than you think   You are a blessing to your family And a treasure to your friends Stop trying to get better Start knowing this will end   The power that you hide And the emotions that you hold Can only stay inside If you refuse to let them go   You wish to be the same As everyone you see But you’re a sweet and Shiny Soul You’re what the world needs   Know it in your ... [ Read More ]

    The Words I Needed to Hear as I Suffered with Chronic Pain
  • Six Ways to Love Yourself Through Fibromyalgia

    Let me ask you this... If you brought a puppy home from the shelter that has been traumatized and brutalized by his previous owner - so much so he cowers and whimpers at the slightest sound or movement - would you berate, ignore, or neglect him? No, of course you wouldn’t! I am guessing you would give him space, talk sweetly, be patient, and protect him. You would do everything you could to make sure that he felt safe and sound. You’d be eager to help ensure his little personality and spirit could shine again. And you would commit to doing this for as long as it took, his entire lifetime if ... [ Read More ]

    Six Ways to Love Yourself Through Fibromyalgia
  • Self-Healing with Release Techniques

    Years ago, when I was receiving weekly treatments for a longstanding flare-up of Fibromyalgia, my Acupuncturist made a comment that made little sense to me at the time, and pissed me off a little. He said, “You have to heal yourself, Asetha. I can’t do it for you.” It was painful to hear, and more than a little discouraging. “What the fickle farts am I paying you for then?!?!” was my first thought. In my heart, I was utterly discouraged as I felt like I’d tried everything already. My body filled with stress and dread at the thought of continuing to suffer for another decade, as I’d already ... [ Read More ]

    Self-Healing with Release Techniques
  • Living Above Fibromyalgia – Embracing Childlike Happiness

    I have been thinking about what it means to be a child lately. Being 24 weeks pregnant (yay!), I am drawn to remembering what it was like to be a kid, and to thinking about what, as a parent, might be a good perspective to bring to caring for and nurturing the blessing I have received. Anyone living with Fibromyalgia is on a journey of learning how important it is to focus on the beauty, fun and joy in life, and live above the pain. If we can do that for ourselves, we have so much to offer as human beings, whether we decide to become parents or not. So what is it that we knew as children ... [ Read More ]

    Living Above Fibromyalgia – Embracing Childlike Happiness
  • Healing Through Fibromyalgia, Personal Loss and Devastation

    A very short while ago, my life was very different from how it is today. Spending simple, happy days with my husband and baby boy, pursuing my life’s work and spreading a message of self-love, was out of reach. During a period of four years, from 2008 to 2012, my life as I knew it, disintegrated. It all began when I was 29 years old. I had a massive flare-up of Fibromyalgia, a chronic pain condition I had been diagnosed with three years prior and had been suffering the ongoing and baffling symptoms of for ten years. In the previous decade, I had learned to manage my symptoms with a ... [ Read More ]

    Healing Through Fibromyalgia, Personal Loss and Devastation
  • Denying Our Callings is like Death to the Soul

    Most of us have similar tendencies when it comes to following our Callings. We can talk ourselves in an out of following our heart, heeding our instincts and reveling in out deepest desires many times over. We remain stuck in a mental loop. That loop is far more painful than anything that is waiting for us on the other side of our fears, worst-case scenarios, assumptions and imagined implications. What I try to remind myself to do, when hoping to comprehend whether or not an idea of mine is a true calling, is this: Put your energy behind what you cannot talk yourself out of rather than what ... [ Read More ]

    Denying Our Callings is like Death to the Soul
  • Breaking our Hearts to Let Love Flow

    Our hearts are hidden behind hard layers like nuts inside a shell. In some cases the shell is softer, as with peanuts. In others, it is almost impenetrable, as is the case with walnuts. But, as they say, every nut can be cracked The heart never ages. The organ that contains our true nature may deteriorate, but our true nature, our heart of hearts, never does. It is a person’s heart that we feel in our day to day interactions. It is a warm heart that reels us in and a cold heart that turns us off. It is a heart of gold that we admire and a heart of coal that we fear. The heart is a physical ... [ Read More ]

    Breaking our Hearts to Let Love Flow
  • Are you Shedding or Shouldering your ‘Shoulds’?

    I knew that my ‘shoulds’ were piling up like rocks in my shoulder blades for years. I was literally shouldering my ‘shoulds’. It got to the point where my ‘shoulds’ - and the self-sacrificing choices they led me to make - were so thick, not only in my shoulders, but throughout my body that I was not able to meet my own basic needs day to day. I was debilitated by flare-ups of Fibromyalgia (a chronic pain condition) made worse by the multiplying, and increasingly complicated and frantic ‘shoulds’ that inhabited me. I should be more successful. I should be touring as a singer/songwriter. ... [ Read More ]

    Are you Shedding or Shouldering your ‘Shoulds’?
  • A Treatment for Fibromyalgia that Truly Heals!

    I wish I could tell everyone with Fibromyalgia, or any health condition, about Medical (Homeopathic) Heilkunst. At the same time, while I know it works, I also understand that we each have to come to things in our own time, in our own way. And, healing has to be a personal journey, led by OUR soul. Only we can know where our answers lay. Still, I feel like I have to share at least some of my experience with how Heilkunst has helped me in case there is someone out there, like me, who has suffered endlessly, tried everything, and searched everywhere for an answer. I hope there will be someone ... [ Read More ]

    A Treatment for Fibromyalgia that Truly Heals!

Breaking our Hearts to Let Love Flow

Our hearts are hidden behind hard layers like nuts inside a shell. In some cases the shell is softer, as with peanuts. In others, it is almost impenetrable, as is the case with walnuts. But, as they say, every nut can be cracked The heart never ages. The organ that contains our true nature may deteriorate, but our true nature, our heart of hearts, never does. It is a person’s heart that we feel in our day to day interactions. It is a warm heart that reels us in and a cold heart that turns us off. It is a heart of gold that we admire and a heart of coal that we fear. The heart is a physical ... [ Read More ]

What Aspects of your Shiny Soul Have you Forgotten?

When we find ourselves at a place in our lives that is unmanageable, we have to learn to draw upon aspects of ourselves that we normally don’t. It is difficult to make progress, regain health, find happiness, cultivate peace and be the person we know ourselves to be at our core, if we cannot unlock new ways of being. Moving forward often means rediscovering the Aspects of our Shiny Soul that we have forgotten. Old patterns of behaviour and thought will always lead us to the same lessons, over and over, and away from love, if we do not choose to open up to new territory that lies within. We ... [ Read More ]

Clearing our Energy to Prevent Burnout, Overwhelm and Fibromyalgia Flare-Ups

For anyone that is a Shiny Soul, it is important that we regularly clear our energy. Because we are shiny, all kinds of energies are attracted to and stick to us, if we are not careful. We naturally tend to take on other people's hurt and carry it ourselves. Even being near a bogged down person or a visit to the grocery store can exhaust and deplete our own clear and calm energy. It is almost as if we are taken over. Even if we are good about protecting our energetic boundaries, energy that makes us feel miserable can get through, stay and build up. To get back to feeling good, we need to ... [ Read More ]

Share your Shiny Soul Wisdom, Get Published and Help Others!

In recent months, in addition to being pregnant with my first child (cutest little boy ever!) who was born on March 5th, I have been working on developing an idea and concept that is important to me – The Shiny Soul Project. And, I need your help to make it an especially worthwhile and helpful resource to anyone struggling to lay down their burdens. On my arduous journey of recovering from Fibromyalgia in recent years, I promised myself that if I ever got well enough I would find a way to share what I learned with others. I know what it is like to suffer endlessly and to wonder if there ... [ Read More ]

Eat. Sleep. Excrete. And Snuggle!

On March 5th I gave birth to my first child, a little boy named Everett Neil. As any mother would say, there is no way to describe the feeling of holding your baby in your arms for the first time. It is an ancient love. My heart breaks every time I look into his liquid, curious eyes and take in the truth of him. He is a miracle, as we all are. And I get to be his Mom. I would imagine that if you have Fibromyalgia, chronic pain or any sort of ongoing, debilitating health challenges, you must wonder how and why I took on the monumental responsibility of bringing this child into the world. I ... [ Read More ]

Are you Shedding or Shouldering your ‘Shoulds’?

I knew that my ‘shoulds’ were piling up like rocks in my shoulder blades for years. I was literally shouldering my ‘shoulds’. It got to the point where my ‘shoulds’ - and the self-sacrificing choices they led me to make - were so thick, not only in my shoulders, but throughout my body that I was not able to meet my own basic needs day to day. I was debilitated by flare-ups of Fibromyalgia (a chronic pain condition) made worse by the multiplying, and increasingly complicated and frantic ‘shoulds’ that inhabited me. I should be more successful. I should be touring as a singer/songwriter. ... [ Read More ]

Living Above Fibromyalgia – Embracing Childlike Happiness

I have been thinking about what it means to be a child lately. Being 24 weeks pregnant (yay!), I am drawn to remembering what it was like to be a kid, and to thinking about what, as a parent, might be a good perspective to bring to caring for and nurturing the blessing I have received. Anyone living with Fibromyalgia is on a journey of learning how important it is to focus on the beauty, fun and joy in life, and live above the pain. If we can do that for ourselves, we have so much to offer as human beings, whether we decide to become parents or not. So what is it that we knew as children ... [ Read More ]

What Kind of Lonely Are You?

I have come to understand that loneliness is a great gift. It feels so uncomfortable that it forces us to dig deeper. No one ever wants to feel lonely. But, feeling lonely allows us to know what it is we need out of life; what it is our soul desires and is sated with. For me, I have had many lonely times in my life. And I can see now that they didn’t occur when I was alone. Loneliness was something I felt when my life was filled with things, activities and people that did not resonate with me. I have always felt the least lonely when I am alone - writing, exercising, meditating, playing ... [ Read More ]

Nine Signs that Unhealthy Friendships are Fueling your Fibromyalgia

Are unhealthy friendships sabotaging your recovery from Fibromyalgia? If you are suffering with Fibromyalgia, I am willing to bet that you are a sounding board for everyone else's problems. While we take care of our own issues, and consult a professional when necessary, we allow others to dump their troubles on us. And, we take on their issues as if they are our own. Am I right? There are many reasons we have fallen into this role... 1. Dealing with Fibromyalgia requires cultivating self-awareness and embracing self-healing. We have learned a lot and have great wisdom to share. 2. ... [ Read More ]